The concept of "Growth Mindset," was and studied by Stanford University Professor Carol Dweck, Phd.
Although we may say these things in a casual or sarcastic way, statements like these come from a fixed mindset. A fixed mindset is a belief that we are not capable of achieving certain things because we don’t have the potential or mental ability to do it.
Statements like “He is a born leader,” or “She is so talented,” can be intended as praise but actually limit potential. Hard work, countless hours of practice, and experience are left out of the equation and considered a “natural ability,” that the individual didn’t really work for. In fact, it could even be construed as more of an insult than a compliment.
How do we escape these habits and develop a growth mindset? It starts with believing you are capable of learning, change, and growth. A growth mindset is not merely adopting a cavalier positive outlook. Rather, it must accept risk, failure, and humility.
Tip: How to stop a fixed mindset in its tracks:
When you catch yourself saying something like "I can't do it," or "I can't figure it out," simply add the word: yet.
This puts the reigns back in your hands and reminds you that you are in control of how you react. You have to exercise your brain just like any other muscle.
Side note- This trick works great with kids too!
What Having a "Growth Mindset" Really Means by Carol Dweck